A little bit of me

Gail loves God pinged me with a liebster, and seeing that liebsters include a list, its party time 🎉

Really though, I always enjoy reading the answers people give if I have been reading their posts for awhile, so I add my answers here below with the possibility someone who reads here might feel the same, and it’s a list!

Gail’s Questions:
1. What time is it where you are? Bedtime….sigh. I should have resisted the lure of my iPad. I will be feeling it tomorrow.
2. What kind of mood are you in? Now that I think about it, pretty good actually. Thanks for asking.
3. Do you have a favorite bible verse? In the beginning God created, (all this delicious stuff in the middle until), The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you all. Amen
4. Do you have a favorite hymn/song? Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing,

O to grace how great a debtor
Daily I’m constrained to be
Let that grace now, like a fetter
Bind my wandering heart to Thee
Prone to wander, Lord, I feel it
Prone to leave the God I love
Here’s my heart, O take and seal it
Seal it for Thy courts above

5. What’s the weather like where you are? Absolutely fabulous! Fall is the time to visit Southern California. Sunny days and cool nights usually through Christmas. Still, I have to admit, I covet a bit when I see catalogs with boots and sweaters and layers, but being stuck with flip flops and shorts in winter does make up for it just a wee little bit 😉
6. Tacos or hot dogs? Generally tacos, and if fish tacos always, but a good chili-cheese dog with all the fixins, yum 😍
7. Chicken or burgers? Burgers for sure. I eat a lot of chicken because it is good for me, affordable, and I like it okay, but given a choice I am a beef kinda gal all the way. 
8. How many posts have you made so far? That is a good question. Humm? I had to go look, and there are just over three hundred, not including the fifty or so I have deleted over time. This surprised me a bit. I would have thought I deleted more than that, interesting.
9. What is your favorite color? I don’t have a favorite. For most of my life I would answer orange just to not have the discussion of favorites. That being said, I am more fond of some color combinations than others, like the colors of fall, a basket of richly dyed Easter eggs, or the hazy gray blue purple pinks of dawn.
10. How do you stay calm when upset? I get sick when I get upset so I tend to work very hard at staying away from controversy and drama. I live in a self inflicted small little sphere I rarely venture out of, because well, I like to be well don’t ya know.
11. Do you have a salvation testimony? Yes. It all happened one day in a Chinese takeout. We go out for a Chinese feast every Christmas. How apt.

I now have reached the point in an award where I should ping others and ask them questions. I have decided to take a different approach to this than I have done in the past, and instead of creating a list to share, I will reblog posts. I think it is a much more effective way for me to share when there are so many wonderful possibilities available.

However, I now feel selfish that I have not shared the need for completing a list with others. I mean come on, I love um, maybe you do too. So have a go at one or two, or all of these questions in the comments if you like.

1. Why do you blog?

2. What do you do that is work, and did you chose it, or did it find you unawares?

3. What is your favorite book or movie, and why?

4. What is one thing about your life you would change if you could?

5. With unlimited resources, what would be your big dream for God?

❤️Blessings Belinda

Ps. Have fun if you’re so inclined. I would love to read your answers.



Awards AKA a List

So, way back last week, the Second-Rate Scientist paid forward a tickle me pink complement, and I immediately proceeded to daydream a grand, extraordinary, fantabulous post of response…..

Unfortunately it is gone, and this makes it difficult to move forward, because those posts that are built out of nothing, and returned to nothing, within the recesses of my mind are the best ones I will ever write.

However I do remember that I had a revelation, that one of the reasons I appreciate awards is for the links to the blogs of others. For what better way to discover new writers, than through the recommendations of those you already follow.

It is for this reason that I am pressing on with this post regardless of the disappointment I am bound to feel about it, when I compare it with that nebulous treasure buried without an X somewhere deep, and I gotta tell ya, it was good. You will just have to take my word on it


(Image property of mitchteemley.com)

Seven Facts:

1) I love lists. I have answered awards in the past just to be able to write a list. However I never wanted to pay it forward, when in actuality, answering these questions is the irrelevant part of the award. It is the list of new blogs to check out that gives them purpose. But I love lists, hehehe, so you are going to have to read through the facts to get to them.

2) I also stapled my finger. Not by accident, I did it on purpose. Almost like I couldn’t control myself; it was so fascinating. Until it was over that is, and then, wow does it hurt. Especially the solvent on the staples, it itches for hours, like christmas tree needle punctures, when you have let the tree die, good and dead, before you take it down. Anyway, I thought I was the only one. Makes you wonder how many finger staplers are out there?

3) The teen years are my favorite ones when it comes to children. Two year olds run a close second, but only if they are not related, because changing diapers is something I am so over.

4) I have five children, but come from a family of seven children, so I feel like a slacker in the offspring department. What is wrong with you, I hear you ask, and you’re right, so illogical.

5) Baleeted, everythings fine, nothing is ruined.

6) I like raisins in my cookies. I know, I know, take me out back and shoot me, but I will still take raisins over chocolate chips any day.

7) I consider rules to be more of guidelines than a hard lines in the sand, and I frequently color outside the lines.

Seven Links:

The part you’ve been waiting for. I don’t do this with intent to cause a burden on the bloggers below. Please do not feel you have to acknowledge this in any way, since I know that so many eschew awards entirely. Think of it more as show and tell.

❤️ Blessings Belinda







https 🙄😧😖🤔🤡 whoops a daisy

I know I said seven, but fact number seven covers this last one. For Oscar and Horace of moonbunnycreations have become special to me. It takes time, not to appreciate Helen’s lovely drawings, but to become deeply attached to the sweet simplicity and kindness of the two friends.



Always and Forever

Kathy nominated my for an award….shucks ☺️ It is always and forever nice to be considered by others. The above photo was lifted from Kathy’s post as her advice to fellow bloggers to have fun and be friendly. I put it here because if I could not think of a better way to display how I picture her than to show this image. For that is how I feel when I visit her; welcomed and wanted. Friendliness just oozes all over you.


1.) Write a post to show your award.


2.) Acknowledge the blogger who nominated you.

☑️ https://katiescottagebooks.wordpress.com/

3.) Give a brief story of how you started your blog.

Reason Post

☑️ It said brief 😎

4.) Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers.

☑️ Okay, anyone who has followed me for any length of time knows that I am not the person to ask for blogging advice, but if I could give one bit of advice to myself it would be: STOP! deleting all your followers every time you have a panic attack when you realize how much they know about you. Come on, you know you like them, need them, want them, they add spice and flavor to your days, so just breathe and get over yourself. Yep 🙄

☑️ I decided to actually read rule #4. I am supposed to provide two pieces of advice. Gee, now this is difficult, two, I need two 🤔 Well it will have to be the same as when asked this question before, Don’t ask me is the best advice I can give you, Mahna Mahna 🙃

5.) Nominate 15 bloggers who deserve the award. ☑️ Anyone who feels inclined to participate, and to do so without having to follow the guidelines.

I do so love a list ❤️

Blessings Belinda


The Answer

There currently is no discernible goal associated with themomfred. In the beginning yes, but that is private and has been achieved. Lol, who am I kidding, the reasons behind my writing are splattered in black and white across the posts on this blog. From the very beginning it has been all about me and my quest to find my lost self, and I think it has become apparent that I was never missing, I was just looking in the wrong place.

Additionally, a realization which has only emerged as I have come to the end of my quest, would be that I wanted to see if I would be able to write. Whether it was sustainable. I am satisfied. Veni, vidi, vici.

So, a goal?  Today I would have to say, no, nothing, nada. I just want to have fun.


7) Ta-da

7) What is the goal for your blog?

Of all ten questions, this one is the most difficult, because it is the last.

I could easily be all la-de-da and philosophical, however I think I will default to blatantly honest, even if it does come across as trite and unappreciative.

I write this blog because it is fun, and when it stops being so, I will stop.

Actually I am pleasantly surprised I have stuck with it this long. Lol, I know, I know, there have been many retreats and attempts to kill it, but that was from prowling fear, not from the lack of enjoyment.

It is not apparent to you, and how would it be, you don’t know me, but I rarely finish anything by choice. I am not sure what it is about completion that bothers me, but I almost always hesitate, pause, and walk away before the last piece is placed.

It has taken concerted effort on my part to complete all ten of the questions on Faye’s list. Almost as if when I answer this last one, completion will settle into my psyche, and I will have finished with this blog.

So this last sentence terrifies me.


5) Here I Am

5) Why did you decide to write a blog?

I am not really sure where to begin, so I guess I will try the beginning.

I was in quite young when I discovered that there were not any unbearable consequences to non participation at school, so I quit. I still went physically, sometimes, I still listened, sometimes, but I never wrote another thing down on paper, other than math and fill in the bubble tests.

I look back at my high school years and my favorite class was my English class, the teacher was passionate about literature, a jerk to the students he didn’t like, but his passion for words held my attention. It was a love hate relationship, I loved the books, the analysis, but I hated his ridicule of those not as quick as himself. He failed me every year because I wouldn’t write anything, but he always let me stay in his classes anyway. However, high schools drama and angst was more than I could handle, so I took a test, and left early to go to community college instead. Much, much, better.

Needless to say college was a bit of a challenge, because I worked hard at avoiding classes that I thought might require me to write something. For by this time, what had started out as a refusal, became a cannot in my mind. In some ways, my inability to write, broadened my horizons, because it forced me to be creative in my class selection. I was only able to take the first, or introductory course in a subject, and then my low or failing grade brought about by not writing any assignments, precluded my enrollment in the subsequent class. So I spent many many years playing around with knowledge, but never really accomplishing much that could be displayed on a piece of paper.

I was twentyish when I decide to try and overcome my mental block regarding writing, so I signed on for the only English class which was available without a placement test. The first day in class we had to write a persuasive essay, and once I started in on the topic, I forgot that I could not write. Then the next day the teacher called me up to the front, and asked me to go to a different class, she said I didn’t belong, I died inside, along with the desire to ever write again.

Flash forward many many odd years, and I had a dream. It was not an enjoyable dream, and it lingered and poked until I wrote it down. Some how this knocked down the wall I had built between my fingers and my words, and so began the time of inappropriately long emails and memos to myself, as I toyed with the words I used in everyday life. It was a way to make the rather repetitive aspects of my job more interesting. I often wondered if the person on the other end of my emails noticed the covert word choices and hidden meanings. It was fun, but as inappropriate as the rabbit trail I am currently going down.

So anyway, one day not too long ago, my daughter came and showed me her new blog, and I recalled that I had written down my dream in a blog a few years before, so in my typical self absorbed fashion, I made her idea all about me.

I have been tap dancing around with this question of why I write since I began this series, not really sure where to start or what to say, and then tonight I read a post over at Anonymously Autistic, it made me cry, in a good way, tears of joy and sorrow, and oh yes!

So now if I am asked why I blog, I will think of ice castles, but I also know that I will not be inclined to face to face share this with the asker, and I am okay with that. For now that I have unleashed my words from all those years of isolation, I am never going back to silence.

Not when the last seven months have so radically altered my life.



9) A Skillfully Exploited Situation

9) What is my favorite movie?

Farce, definitely farce. I love plays by Moliere and Shakespeare, but this is about movies, and I can only color outside the lines so far before the answers become nonsensical. So focus I will.

As I posted before I am a sucker for the emotional ride of a disaster/save the world movie. However, if we are talking about favorite genre, then the likes of Moliere and Shakespeare still holds true, for a comedy of errors makes for the best of movies.

There are so many good ones but these are first five that came to mind:

Arsenic and Old Lace – Cary Grant is the master of this genre.

My Favorite Wife – Irene Dunne AND Cary Grant.

My Cousin Vinney – Marisa Tomei and Joe Pesci

Oscar – Marisa Tomei and a surprising Sylvestor Stallone

The Great Race – Jack Lemon and Peter Falk

I really disliked limiting myself to just these five because I could go on and on, but for the sake of brevity I decided to place the boundary at the first five that popped into my head. And each one of these movies has a cast that should be mentioned, but keeping it short is my aim tonight.

Still….I just have to sneak in a performance by Stanley Tucci as Muerte in Undercover Blues.

Okay, okay, I can do this. The short and sweet answer is:

I will go out of my way to watch any performance I can find by Stanley Tucci and Marisa Tomei and Cary Grant and Irene Dunne and Myrna Loy and William Powell and Jack Lemmon and and and…….to infinite and beyond!